After being here a little over a month, the exhaustion of adjusting to a new place and moving across the country really started to hit me. It didn’t help that over a six week period, we somehow managed to almost destroy Tim’s mom’s perfect house.
Around week two, I somehow knocked over a lamp onto a bed and didn’t realize it. When I went back into the room a few hours later, the lamp had burned a hole through a comforter, sheets, and onto the mattress. Thankfully I didn't burn the place down.
Around week four, Selah, our one-year-old, managed to knock a hole through a wall in our in-law’s kitchen with her head.
Then, on our final week, Selah knocked over and shattered a really nice lamp.
While all these mishaps were happening to my husband’s mom’s perfect Southern Living house, our three-year-old was crying everyday and having a hard time because she missed her best friend and didn’t want to go anywhere and meet any new friends. Only her best friends from San Francisco would do.
The day after the lamp incident was a hard day. It was week six of ‘one thing after another.’ I was feeling down in the dumps and anxiously waiting for the next thing to happen.
All day I felt weak. We moved to a city I love, and I couldn't enjoy it because I was so overwhelmed with stress from the move.
I kept hearing a voice in the back of my head through out the day.
I paused that day and read some verses about standing firm.
Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.
Therefore, my dear brothers and sisters, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.
1 Corinthians 15:58
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.
1 Peter 5:8-9
Throughout the day, I said truths out loud about myself from scripture. I got Sophia, our three-year-old, to say some out loud about her self as well. This is one way we can stand firm on hard days.
I needed to hear these truths, because I was starting to repeat to myself that life was too hard, that Sophia was never going to want new friends, that my in-laws were not going to like me because we destroyed their house.
The truth is that everything in our in-laws house can be easily fixed, and they still love us.
The truth is that God made me, Selah, Sophia and Tim in His image. God handcrafted each one of us. God made us relational, which is why Sophia was feeling sad and missing her friends so much.
The truth is, parenting is hard. However, children are a gift from the Lord. These kids are my gift and God chose me to be their mom.
The truth is, moving is hard. However, I am certain, even on hard days, that this is where God has called our family.
Tim and I went to eat that afternoon. It was a very sunny day, and I started panicking because I thought it was starting to rain. I started yelling at Tim and telling him to hurry and get the kids inside. He wasn’t hurrying, which made me panic even more. I didn't understand why he wasn't hurrying; it was clearly starting to rain. Tim looked at me and calmly said, ‘Kristin, it's not raining. Something is leaking out of your purse onto your foot.’
Standing firm is day by day, hour by hour process.
If we do not stand firm each day, satan will come in and steal our joy. The best place for him to attack is where we are weak. My weakness is that I can let my attitude and outlook on life be affected by everything going on in our life at the time. I can start getting overwhelmed with anxiety about small day to day things, instead of finding joy and peace with daily wins.
I am standing firm.
I'm excited to say that Sophia has made several friends the last few weeks, and we have moved into our new house!
The adjustment stage is beginning to wear off, and we are beginning to thrive as a family in a new city. We are loving Huntsville! We are starting to meet lots of people and getting involved with all the cool things downtown Huntsville has to offer. We are super excited about what is ahead!
We are so thankful for our in-laws for letting us stay with them for six weeks! We couldn’t have made the transition of moving here without them.
When life seems overwhelming, what do you do to stand firm?